Ever have one of THOSE kind of nights?

[doc-catfish]

Rather long guys, but I have to get it off my chest.

Well fellas, I was looking forward to an exciting evening of lap dances with my ATF at my favorite club last night, and needless to say, things just didn't go as I wanted to.

It rained the whole way there and after paying my cover charge and sitting down, one of the girls informs me that she had taken the evening off. I buy my first drink, and upon tipping the waitress, she complains that my tip isn't big enough. THAT should have been an omen.

Okay, I figure. There are still a lot of other girls here who can salvage the evening.

So I run into another gal who's danced for me on a few occasions before, (kind of my AT2F of sorts), and when she asked if I'd be interested in dances, I humbly say yes knowing that my bankroll has been freed up by my main gals absence.

She informs me that she has one guy in front of me. No big deal, it happens all the time. A few songs I figure, and I'll be next.

She finishes with him and comes over to my table (to get me I assume), then tells me that she's still got one ahead of me, but its a different guy. Still I don't get that upset about it, since thats happened before. A few more songs I figure, then it will be my turn.

So a few songs go by... :(

Then a few more... ???

Then a few more... >:(

Mind you as this is happening, I being asked by numerous other girls if I'd be interested in a dance, and I turn them down knowing that I have to save money for the girl that I'm waiting on. I tell them things like "no thank you" and "perhaps later" which kind of was the truth.

Finally I can take no more, when a gorgeous brunette comes up and asks, I explain truthfully that I have a dance pending, she says with whom, and after telling her, she goes to check on the situation.

After about two more songs, she comes back and tells me that the girl I'm waiting on is STILL dancing for another customer, so I say, FUCK IT and go have two wonderful dances with this brunette. I would have gone for more but I was still expecting a dance from the previous girl.

So I go back to my table when finished. Finally, little miss busy HAS to come out because its time for her stage set again. So I move up to the tip rail hoping to attract attention and make sure she hasn't forgotten me. After her set (tipped her twice by the way) she comes up to me and explains that she only has two more songs before she gets to me.

So, like an IDIOT I figure, okay JUST two more songs.

So two songs go by... ???

And then two more...

And then I think "fuck this shit, I'm outta here!" and storm out of the club.

It rained all the way home. Rather fitting.

Now, if this gal was that busy and knew that she was going to be for awhile, I could understand, but why the hell didn't she just SAY SO the second or third time she spoke to me? With that said, I could have spent my money on the other dancers rather than seeing them walk away discouraged.

I felt her behavior was rather selfish, unprofessional and stupid, seeing as she not only hurt her own bottom line, but that of her co-workers.

Just was wondering if you guys have had a dancer string you out like this before and was interested in how you handled it the next time you saw her. I intend to go back to that club, and if this girl asks me again if I want a dance, I'm going to give her the "Well, I'd buy one from you, BUT---" line.

Whew! I think I'm done. Again I apoligize for the longwindedness. Sure beats smashing my furniture with a hockey stick.

;)

[Heather_Young]

I felt her behavior was rather selfish, unprofessional and stupid, seeing as she not only hurt her own bottom line, but that of her co-workers. Â

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I whole-heartedly agree with you. ÂI would never treat a customer so badly. ÂMaybe you should (if you haven't already) reconsider you AT2F's status. ÂAlso, that waitress handled herself very unprofessionally. ÂMaybe you should bring her behavior to the attention of management.
Sorry all that happened to you. ÂIf you're ever in Portland, I'll make sure you treated MUCH better! Â;D
Also, you might want to tell your ATF about the situation, so that maybe she could let you know if she's not going to be at work on a scheduled night so that you don't waste your time and money to be treated so poorly.

[aggieed]

I wouldn't sweat it. ÂI had something similar happen to me a couple of weeks ago. ÂI waited for a long time for one of my favorites to come by one late Tuesday night, but she became distracted with a group of guys in VIP. ÂI ended up just walking out with the money I walked in with and came back the next afternoon to spend that money and three hours with another dancer that I had a tremendous time with.

Think of it as a night where you saved your money for another trip to the nudie bar.

[SuperDude]

No dancer is going to tell you that she is too busy for your business. They line us up like patients in a doctors waiting room and get to us when they can. (Notice how smart doctors have stopped doing that to patients because crowded waiting rooms and long waits began to hurt cash flow.) If a dancer respected you as a man and a person, she would tell you the truth--"It's going to be a half-an-hour. If waiting is going to be a bother, may I introduce you to...." This is a good reason for customers to have several favorites and when one is busy, move on to the next one. There is no loyalty in strip clubs.

[yoda57us]

Sometimes, if a girl has seen you around the club often enough, she will think that you will wait for her until the cows come home. My TRUE ATF's always ask how long I can stay when they see me and, if they have a guy or 2 ahead of me they let me know and come over to me as soon as they can. I have even had a few ask other guys to wait if they knew I couldn't stay long. The "secondary" atf doesn't have the same comitment to you as a girl who KNOWS you are there to spend money on her. This gilr took a gamble and lost. It was dumb. Don't get yourself all worked up, just find another girl to get dances from.

[sol_de_pr2]

The last time I was at the club my ATF was really busy with other clients so I decided to spend time with a new dancer, very lovely indeed. Had two VIP's with her. I also gave lots of tips onstage. Finally my ATF was available and had a couple of laps at closing hour. So, not always will there be access to one's favorite dancer.

[doc-catfish]

I wasn't so much mad that I got put in what seemed like an eternal queing line, but knowing that in hindsight, I could have gotten out of that line and spent my money elsewhere. Some of the other girls were walking away a bit disgruntled after I turned them down.

Obviously, this gal was in a position where she was going to bruise somebodys ego no matter how she played the situation out. I just think that she could have minimized the damage and handled the situation better than she did. She had TWO opportunities to tell me that she was probably going to be awhile, but decided it was better to string me along. If she had simply explained the situation, I would have been understood.

I suppose in an environment where manipulation is the norm as opposed to good business practice, we should just expect these things are going to happen.

Next time my ATF isn't available, I'm going with that brunette as a backup. I'll take my business where its wanted.

[yoda57us]

No dancer has ever said to me "I'm going to ask every guy in the club if he wants a dance, I could be back in 2 minutes or 2 hours, if you don't like it you can leave". Stringing guys along kinda goes with the territory for some girls. Just makes me appreciate my favs even more...

[Susan Wayward]

Yeah, if you've had to wait more than, say, five songs, I would go ahead and get the next girl that comes along that appeals to you. That's about as long as I would possibly expect a guy to wait on me - what, twenty minutes? Maybe not even that long; that's a long time to have to sit there waiting. But if I have been asked for dances and there is a regular there, I will ask him if it's ok for me to get some dances out of the way so that I can hang out with him without worrying about time. I of course don't expect him to abstain from getting dances from other girls when I'm not at his table, either.
Just look at that crappy night as a learning experience, I guess. Spend your money the way it makes you the happiest.

[Chuck149]

I've never had my ATF do that, I'd never forgive her if she did. >:( but I have had a couple of ladies try that tactic. I use colettecalls rule, I'll wait 4 or 5 songs and then start shopping again.

[Richard_Head]

This is a good reason for customers to have several favorites and when one is busy, move on to the next one. There is no loyalty in strip clubs.

I agree with SuperDude, plus I enjoy the variety.

[Bridgette]

Often what happens to me is, I go onstage and have three or four guys ask me to go upstairs for dances. I agree with the first one, then put them in order of who asked first, second and so on. I tell each one that I have x number of requests ahead of them, and I will come back to them as soon as I'm done if they don't mind waiting. They usually agree, sometimes asking how long I'll be. I do my best to give a decent estimate. But almost invariably one of those guys will want a VIP after maybe one dance, so I can't really excuse myself to go round telling the guys in line after him that I'm going to be longer than expected. When it's my turn to go onstage again, if there's someone I still haven't gotten to, he will usually ask again how much longer, and I of course explain that one of the guys ahead of him went for VIP, and I have x minutes left in that, but if that guy decides to go again it will be longer. At that point the guy at least has the option of waiting a few more minutes to see if I finish or do another session, or moving on. Sometimes we have such a busy night that it is impossible to accommodate everyone before closing. I at least try to be fair and upfront about the situation, so the ones who really want dances with me know there's a wait, and the ones who just want a dance have the option of choosing someone else.

To Dr Catfish, the girl you're talking about should have made a better effort to let you know the deal, and I suspect that when she first told you she had one guy ahead of you it was true, but she got a request from someone she knew would get alot of dances and chose to put you after him also, and rather than be straight with you, she tried to keep you waiting by saying it would only be a 'couple more songs'. She should have either told the next one she already had a request and danced for you a couple times, or explained to you that she had been requested by a regular who gets alot of dances, or something to that effect. She definitely could have handled it better. But, as others have said, you shouldn't sweat it - just move on to another girl or leave and save your money for another day. If you choose to get dances from another girl and the one you wanted comes back around, you can either continue with her or she can find someone else to dance for. Chances are good she won't have any trouble getting someone else to dance for if she already had to make you wait a while, and you can enjoy the variety of other girls.

[fishnet]

I just don't have your patience DC. I don't like to wait at all which is why I prefer to have a regular and set the playdate up in advance. Even with Miss P who danced for me the first time last Sat., I have things set up for Friday so I'm her first customer of the night and we'll go until I'm done. That may not be till 0400 ;D but that's the way I like it. ;D

Even with my first fav, I didn't have a contact # but I was going weekly on Sat. I told her to look for me coming off stage and got taken care of first. Then she worked the floor. After 2 months, she changed things. She wanted to work the floor first. Guess she thought I was RIL and would put up with anything. ::) The first time she kept me waiting an hour and a half. I was upset with the change. The next week she wanted to keep me waiting too. Enough was enough. I went through 4 other girls and about $450 before she caught up to me. She blew it in other ways that night too so she was benched for 3 months.

[Dreamer]

Say Cat, yes she was selfish , unprofessional, and rude. If she had treated me that way I wouldn't have held out that long. Pass her up and move onto someone new.

[viplover]

I went through something similiar once where I would wait and wait and then after like 2 hrs my friends wanted to leave so I left all mad withought getting a dance and I went back the following week she offered a dance and she remembered me and said you still waiting for that dance? I said no I had a bunch with a few others girls and she gave me a dirty look and left. lol

[SportsWriter2]

If I catch a dancer lying, she goes on my No List for 30-90 days, depending on how much the lie annoyed me. The word gets around fast.... This is also a good way to shelve dancers you're tired of. Sometimes they admit lying to another guy to be with you, and they're proud of that. WRONG! Bye.