Am I the only one ?

[witt]

After reading the fantasy vs. reality thread on Stripper Web I was curious to find out if anyone feels like I do. I am a 35 year old single professional with a very stressful job. I enjoy visiting my neighborhood club 2-3 times per month to relax.The dancers treat me well and I always have a good time.

On the Stripper Web Forum it is commonly mentioned that the dancers get tired of men asking them out and asking personal questions. I do not blame them because I feel the same way(not about them asking me out I do have to worry much about that one ;) ).

I consider the dancers to be friends(in the club), but I want that to end when I walk out the door. For me it is all fantasy and I do not want it to invade my real life. I will not give out my phone number or last name. I will say what I do for a living, but I wont say where. To me it is a real turn off when they try to get to personal.

When I leave the club I know I will miss the women, but I always know where I can find them. I don't want them finding me.

[hollyday]

no witt
your not the only one
being a dancer myself i like my private life to be private
i've been out before..grocery shopping , wal-mart etc. and have seen customers...i never
invade their space or say hi or even acknowledge them sometimes...maybe eye contact if he see be...but what if he's shopping with his wife or something and i , what, go run up and give him a big hug and say ' thanks for that big tip the other night ' and his wife comes walking around the corner...

but on another note i was walking down the street one sunny afternoon on my way to the beer store...i live in canada & we cant get it at the supermarket...and i'm with a guy friend, and this guy walks up, i recognized him from the club, and he walks right up to me and goes ''hey i know u,,i seen u taking off your clothes at flesh gordons''while hes doing this little dance right there on adelaide street! i was completely fucking mortified...i wanted to crawl in the sidewalk with my six pack :P :-[
needless to say i gave him the 'look' and kept walking
my guy friend who didnt know i danced just looked at me and goes'friend of yours' and i'm like 'i think he's a homeless crazy person' and that was the end of it
but belive me...when i seen that guy again in the club i tore him a new asshole.

[Alanna]

i definitely see the point that most guys don't want to reveal too much personal info or they feel like questions from dancers can be invasive... after all, most guys don't want to be known as strip club patrons in their real lives to begin with. i don't know why it is, but although they may feel that way about themselves, they often don't think that same way about the dancers. but it think that for the most part, the guys who ask us out are the type that are looking to get laid. i believe that many customers are of the opinion that we dance because we're just sluty "bad" girls and don't think of it as someone's employment. in my case, in these situations once i mention that this is my job and i go by much the same basic principles that most people do regarding their job, they're understanding, and for some reason, it just didn't cross their minds at first.

in any case, i can't say i wouldn't date or befriend a customer anyway. generally speaking, i probably wouldn't, but as a single person, one never knows. i just think that for me, it may be more difficult to date a customer seeing as that they're my income source which puts a relationship in an awkward light right at the beginning.

[ASU_Racer]

I agree with merely_lurking that it really depends on your lifestyle. It wouldn't bother me to talk "real life" inside a club, or asscociate with a dancer outside the club, but I'm a single college student, I can understand how this might change for someone who is older, maried, or has children.

[Chuck149]

Right on ASU, I am married and do want my strip club fantasies to leak out into my real life, just like most dancers do want customers in their real lives. But for you single, unattached guys that's a different story.

[doc-catfish]

I wouldn't mind if I ran into a dancer away from her job but truth be told, I'm too involved with what I'm doing and I'd never recognize such a girl even if I looked her in the face. She'd probably have to approach me first.

And even if that DID happen, I'd be uncomfortable about talking about anything to do with goings on at the club unless she brought it up first. She may not want that part of her life discussed in public any more than I would want mine. And I'm single.

I kind of like to think that I'm stepping into a fantasy world when I step inside a club, and if that world and my real life starts interacting, that fantasy in somehow diminished. I tend to enjoy myself on out of town trips more (spend more $$$) because there's less chance of that happening.

[Chuck149]

I kind of like to think that I'm stepping into a fantasy world when I step inside a club, and if that world and my real life starts interacting, that fantasy in somehow diminished. ÂI tend to enjoy myself on out of town trips more (spend more $$$) because there's less chance of that happening.
My sentiments exactly. I only go to strip clubs when I'm away on business. Going to clubs near home only increases the chance of my real and fantasy worlds colliding. Unlike you though, I am married, which is another reason I only go when on business trips. ;)

[Jackjrct]

Didn't George on Stenfeld have a problem with his world colliding.

I have seen several dancers in the general public and the meetings have been from a wave, to "Hi. How are you" to short conversations ... how was your weekend, what's up, etc. NEVER did the club come up, or that she'll be dancing on these days, etc.

Most dancers know that the two world should never collide. And talking about the club is the last thing that "both" of us would talk about.

My 2 pennies

[sol_de_pr2]

I just cannot quote the original post so here goes my reply:

1) I'm a 40 year old, single professional. My job is stressful and yeah, I do enjoy these clubs.

2) I haven't had the chance to ask a dancer for a date YET. It's just plain unconfortable for me. Imagine telling my relatives and co-workers that I'm dating a stripper Â:-[

3) "I will say what I do for a living, but I wont say where. To me it is a real turn off when they try to get to personal". I used to say that I work in government, now I say that I'm an attorney. There's one dancer who knows where ÂI work, because I felt that saying it to her would not create any kind of conflict. As of late, with Bridgette (high roller) I've had fairly personal dialogues, at her club of course.

4) "I don't want them finding me. " Depends on which dancer ;D

To all of the above I can add that Bridgette (High Roller) sent me an email because apparently she either saw my Yahoo! group or my TUSCL reviews and asked about a club in PR (Divas, where she's at right now) without us knowing each other personally. Sooner or later she found out who I was ('cause I told her), and God knows how many other people now know Âabout my favorite hobby (specially in my chosen profession) :-[ ÂSo, witt, I really don't think it will affect you since you are single and unattached, just like me. ÂDifference is, ÂI've blown my cover and have a sense of humor about it ;D

[sol_de_pr2]

"I wouldn't have a problem telling anyone I was dating a stripper if it was someone I really liked and wanted to be with. ÂI think it is hypocritical to like a dancer and enjoy spending time with her at a club, but then not want to associate with her in the outside world if she wants to."

Don't get me wrong, lurk. I wouldn't have a problem telling anyone I was dating a stripper if it was someone I liked and wanted to be with and if she wanted to (duh, I wouldn't force her ). It's not that I wouldn't date Âa stripper. What I mean in that statement you quoted is that given my particular family and professional situation it would take a lot of courage on my part to do so. That what I meant by "unconfortable".

P. S. I'd have to keep associating with my family ;D

[Dreamer]

The love 'em and leave 'em type? Not me , I'm curious about all kinds of people. Don't expect anything to develope but open to whatever possibilities may occur.

[sadbuttrue]

Though I am single, I for a long time kept it in the closet, because of my kids. But my kids are much older now.

But friendships started to develop with dancers, so I let the cat out of the bag. I'm not ashamed of dancers. Sometimes I'm ashamed that I let myself stay in it so long. I kind of coined an acronym AFI, AFO (A friend inside/outside).

So, I don't really have a problem with it. Even people at work know now...mostly men.

One of the worst things I let out, though was in front of this really sweet older women I work with a few weeks ago. I work in computers and I was talking about some work that may have not run correctly over-night. I meant to say "...affected by things that go bump in the night". But what came out was "things that go bump and grind...". Â
[shocked].

Her face turned all red, but she was a good sport about it and laughed.


-Sad-
:-[

[EvilCyn]

It is so wonderful to me when a guy is like this......
Comes in, has a good time, and walks out the door till next time.....

Being married, (even though we are swingers) sometimes I feel like I am just to damn old to play the head games anymore..... I will never ever lead a customer on to think anything will happen out side, but I hate trying to make money while trying to make them understand I am there to dance, and entertain then that's it !!!!!

Because we swing, and I have the webstie, I can keep alot of guys interested just by stories of our lifestyle, when being married would have turned them away, but then I get "well when do I get to join in"
So its a double edged sword...

I have had over the years, a few customers who were married, content in their lifes, I was just like there seragent girlfreind I knew all about them, but they knew it stayed all right there in the club where it should.......They knew me being married, having my own life, kept them in a very safe space with a level headed mature dancer
Licks Cyn

[sadbuttrue]

Lordy - you are one dangerous baby doll. Some website. I'll have to save it for when I have time to be alone... ;D

My what big eyes you have..

-Sad-
:D

[lestat1]

Because we swing, and I have the webstie, I can keep alot of guys interested just by stories of our lifestyle,
Licks Cyn
So I click away to go visit your website, expecting another ordinary dancer's website with a few glamorous style pictures of you wearing sexy outfits and whatnot....but what do I find? JEEPERS ALMIGHTY! I think it's time to start an "EvilCyn's sex life" thread, that's for damn sure.

-lestat1

[lestat1]

I just checked out Cyn's website too... WOW.... I can't hold a candle to that! LOL
Luv,
Amber
Well there's an idea. Cyn, what's your take on hot wax?

[Chuck149]

From what I saw, it wasn't a candle she was holding LMAO ;)

[sol_de_pr2]

OMG I had forgotten about the lines I wrote here! Boy, was I naive!!

[EvilCyn]

Now candles are one of the few things I have never played with.....
If Amber is envovled I am up for trying anything ......<evilgrin>

Licks Cyn