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Old Posted: 04-28-2009, 08:59 AM   #1
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Dancers... Let's say,... hypothetically, you were writing a book for men about picking up "hot" women in the dance clubs, bars, street, bookstores, etc. What would you suggest?

I'm not asking for silly stuff like, "just be yourself" or "be confident"... I'm asking for more meaningful stuff, like what kinds of shirts and colognes girls like, body language, direct approach v. indirect approach, pickup lines, good ways to start a conversation,... whether acting cocky, conceited or a tiny bit obnoxious is ever a good idea, bragging v. modesty, etc...

I've actually read a couple of "pickup" books and they were worthless, except for a few psychological tools to make women feel more comfortable with you and want to talk to you... Maybe you could do better, since your job is to "pickup" men and make them spend a lot of money on you... Any trade secrets that may also work for men?
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You're stated objective of picking up "hot" women clearly illustrates your lack of depth, so your best bet is to try to find someone as shallow and superficial as you. (Btw - I especially find it humorous to read what you list as "more meaningful stuff". LOL)


In reality, the answers you recieve are going to be as varied as the women you intend to prey upon, and nothing will be guaranteed to work all of the time anyway.

What you really should focus on is learning how to read people so that you can adjust your approach to fit a given situation, or quickly assess whether or not to make an approach at all.
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target women with low self esteem and make them feel worse...works every time...

...or at least thats what pick up artists would suggest, lol.
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Seriously? You come to a Stripper board looking for tips on picking up "hot" women? lmfao

You need a good kick in the nads.
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Thanks for the laugh.. That was seriously FUNNY!
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Old Posted: 04-28-2009, 01:07 PM   #6
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Do steroids, lift heavy weights, get contacts, go tanning. And stop playing all those gay fucking video games. You can’t get pussy in front of a TV playing games with your geeky friends. Go out to night clubs and bars, hit the beach. If you got money, floss. Whatever you do, don’t be yourself.

Old Posted: 04-28-2009, 01:08 PM   #7
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Ok, I'll bite.

Personally, I prefer a man to be more gentlemanly. An over-sexualized approach ("DAMN! YOU LOOK HOT!") Was flattering when I was in high school. At this point, I'm REALLY tired of that and am much more impressed when a man shows restraint and manners. I get the feeling most exceptionally good looking women feel this way too. They get tired of being treated like little more than sex in heels. They know they're hot and the novelty of being told it by strangers has long since worn off by the twenties.

It's better to just approach her and start a conversation. We'll know you're interested from that alone and we'll be relieved to be with a man that seems to have some tact and good breeding.

I'm not going to get into things like clothing and the like because it varies so much. For instance- men's cologne always makes me gag. I would much rather you just smell clean. Some women feel the same way, other's love it.
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Wait.. isn't there some lamers guide to this? The Mystery Method or something?
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Old Posted: 04-28-2009, 01:38 PM   #9
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My biggest advice is to not be a douche.

Would a douche tell you that? No they would not. They will tell you how to be douchier.

Incidentally I am writing several books on the topic and have a few guys who are 'projects' in the matter. This is not a hypothetical deal for me hon.
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Seriously? You come to a Stripper board looking for tips on picking up "hot" women?
Why not? You guys are professional pick up artists... Who else do you know that makes approaches to about 30 or more total strangers a night with the sole objective of making yourself irresistable to that person??? Who else do you know whose livelihood depends entirely on her skills as a "pickup artist"? The best dancers have well-rehearsed body language, pickup lines, "openers", "routines", etc...

A few years ago, I actually started a "pickup" and dating-coach "school" with four beautiful female "coaches". One of them was a dancer. (I was just a silent partner working behind the scenes.) I got the idea from watching "Mystery" and other "pickup" "schools" advertising weekend seminars for $3,000 per person. (It's actually an extremely lucrative industry.) It was a good idea and could have been very profitable,... but, the girls gave up on it too soon...
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Incidentally I am writing several books on the topic and have a few guys who are 'projects' in the matter. This is not a hypothetical deal for me hon.
It's not a hypothetical deal for me, either... I have original copyrighted material for establishing a pickup "school" with female coaches... I have a whole self-help and confidence-building program mapped out... My partners in this venture quit on me, but I'm going to be trying it again, soon... and maybe even turning it into a national franchise...
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Hehe, makes me think of the old saying: "Those who can, do...those who can't, teach."

Have you picked up some hot chicks Jack? Is your pickup school material based on personal success with women, or tips obtained from women?
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Truthfully, I see through all "pick up" and dislike being hit on. I just pick out the men I like myself. I'd truly prefer they leave me alone and let me do the choosing.

However my Three Noble Truths:

1. Alcohol will not make me like you.

2. Be interesting and civilised. I had a guy come up to my best friend (a civilian girl) and I on Sunday night. He bought us a drink and then I had to try and drag the conversation along. So, see 1. Alcohol did not make me like him. And he was not interesting.

3. Telling me how theoretically huge your cock is, or about your prowess in bed, will not impress me, just annoy me.

Sounds basic, but I meet many, many men who break the Noble Truths. Hence why I prefer to do the choosing myself. Much less hassle.
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It's not a hypothetical deal for me, either... I have original copyrighted material for establishing a pickup "school" with female coaches... I have a whole self-help and confidence-building program mapped out... My partners in this venture quit on me, but I'm going to be trying it again, soon... and maybe even turning it into a national franchise...
And some poor slob will purchase it, thinking it will make him some sex god..

As a Dancer I've heard every line in the book and then some, even out in the real world. Men that try this just get their feelings hurt. If I want to, I will let you know.

Then again there are a lot of weak minded women out there that are easily manipulated.
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I've actually read a couple of "pickup" books and they were worthless, except for a few psychological tools to make women feel more comfortable with you and want to talk to you... Maybe you could do better, since your job is to "pickup" men and make them spend a lot of money on you... Any trade secrets that may also work for men?
OMG dude, seriously? You want instructions on how to Pick up Hot Women? Surely you jest... I see aforeignaffair in your future.
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Learn how to read and project body language cues. This is a rather sophisticated science, and probably not one that can be learned by the socially inept through the purchase of a book, but you may sell quite a few copies based on that topic, if you know anything about the reading of body language.

Reading and projecting body language is the art of the con man. Ever watched a tv show where the actor had that right tone of voice and inflection, but it still seemed fake? That's because he/she didn't know how to project body language.

One can literally appear to read minds if he/she is skilled in body language reading. This is how psychics ply their trade.
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you'de be surprised how many men read that stuff.

I've read "The Game" as per a friends request and it pretty much reaffirms alot of stuff that guys with good "pick-up" skills already do.

Aside from all the huff and fluff it is a decent self-help book. Kind of teaches men to be independent, and for lack of a better phrase "love themselves".

But seriously, if you want hot women do steroids and don't be yourself.

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you'de be surprised how many men read that stuff.

I've read "The Game" as per a friends request and it pretty much reaffirms alot of stuff that guys with good "pick-up" skills already do.

Aside from all the huff and fluff it is a decent self-help book. Kind of teaches men to be independent, and for lack of a better phrase "love themselves".

But seriously, if you want hot women do steroids and don't be yourself.
And how did you come to that conclusion?
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Learn how to read and project body language cues. This is a rather sophisticated science, and probably not one that can be learned by the socially inept through the purchase of a book, but you may sell quite a few copies based on that topic, if you know anything about the reading of body language.

Reading and projecting body language is the art of the con man. Ever watched a tv show where the actor had that right tone of voice and inflection, but it still seemed fake? That's because he/she didn't know how to project body language.

One can literally appear to read minds if he/she is skilled in body language reading. This is how psychics ply their trade.
Completely agree with this. While the books aren't necessarily bad, they pale in comparison to practice.

Be yourself(or preferebly don't), and just talk to girls. You'll figure it out eventually.

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And how did you come to that conclusion?

lol im being sarcastic...clearly my sense of humor does not translate on the web.

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Haha. Okay. I was going to be like "Say what?!". Fact: Some men on this forum I truly think believe this.
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Haha. Okay. I was going to be like "Say what?!". Fact: Some men on this forum I truly think believe this.

i guess that makes it kind of funny. But, ofcourse, i don't think doing steroids and not being yourself will get you hot women. You have to tan, get your eyebrows done, and whiten your teeth like Ross from friends as well.

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So I could have avoided all the high school crap if I'd just taken steroids?
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So I could have avoided all the high school crap if I'd just taken steroids?
absolutely.

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i guess that makes it kind of funny. But, ofcourse, i don't think doing steroids and not being yourself will get you hot women. You have to tan, get your eyebrows done, and whiten your teeth like Ross from friends as well.
Don't forget to slick your hair back and leave the first three buttons of your cheap dress shirt open. Kthx.
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